Good morning you guys! As I was sitting on hold trying to get a shipment issue figured out I was listening to the recording telling me that I’m important and that my emotional state matters. Yes, the world does revolve around me, thank you for verifying that Post Office!!
As wonderful as the PO was to me I was having a bit of a scuffle on social media. First: I hate scuffles on social media. We all have different opinions, all of which should be respected, if you don’t have anything nice to say please just don’t say anything. Yes, it really is that simple.
Before we get too far down the rabbit hole let me say this – I have found the healthy living blogger, all aspects of it, overwhelmingly positive and encouraging. Don’t ever doubt that! As always there will be haters, as the hip kids call them.
This particular scuffle happened to be over food – go figure! Now, if you talk about food (or really anything) you know you may run into a little opposition. It happens, no big deal, and you move on without consequence.
Monday’s post had a few recipes in it that so happened to be vegan and came from a paleo cookbook. After going live on here I hopped on over to Facebook to share in blogger groups and on pages I felt may benefit. I was surprised at how quickly I was having negative comments popping up within a certain group. At first I was bewildered as to how my quaint little post could have fired up so many angry plant powered powerhouses (do I get points for alliteration?!). It wasn’t my post though, it was the very first comment from a member that was snarky. I had to laugh it off at this point; it was beyond my control and, quite frankly, it was amusing.
Guys, I’m just going be real – I don’t really care what you think of how I eat, how I exercise, or how I spend my free time. I’m going to do me and either you’re going to read about it or not. I’m down with that. I love that you’re here and wouldn’t have it any other way but I get you’re not going to love everything I post or be able to relate to it, or XYZ but that’s ok, I do hope you can find something often enough to come back for more. I am awesome, you know. 😉 I digress by a long shot. I know you all handle haters so get ready to relate!
This confrontation of sorts got me thinking if it happens to little ole me then who else deals with it? Probably lots of you guys! As healthy living bloggers we’re pretty darn liberal to let our beliefs and preferences be known. We kind of have to be. I like that about this community, it makes people accountable and usually gives all a soft place to land when we do slip. Keyword being usually!
We all also have naysayers and haters, even if we’re not all bloggers. If you haven’t run into them you will which really is a cool part of life! I once had someone tell me “If you have a few haters you must be doing something right. If you don’t or everyone hates you, try something new.” As a community we present people with possibly new ideas, certainly different ways to go about things so yes, of course we’re going to get push back. Am I beating a dead horse yet? Oops, that wasn’t very vegan of me.
Yeah, I needed a laugh too! What was I saying? Oh yeah, here a few tips to handle all your naysayers:
5. Pick your battles. No, I’m not saying we should always roll the wooden horse to the gate but not everyone is as sweet as sweet tea; trolls, sharks, and overall negative people are sometimes just trying to get you to lash out and be negative too. Ain’t nobody got time for that!
4. Take a break before responding. It’s human instinct to fight fire with fire but personal and brand image need to be saved. I absolutely believe comments and emails (and face-to-face confrontations) should be responded to accordingly. No need to compromise an opportunity of a lifetime for one Negative Nancy.
3. Know when it’s time to leave. I don’t know if you need permission to leave a conversation but I sure don’t. If we’re “discussing” our beliefs and you become overbearing, rude, or malicious I have every reason to leave, be that out of metaphorical room or real room. You are not doing yourself, anyone around us, or me any good. Not to mention you obviously don’t respect me or my stance.
2. Be ready to learn something new. Funny thing about #3 is that it can come back and bite you. Don’t be that guy or girl someone is walking away from, come prepared to have your mind blown, or at least your horizons widened a little. Coming away from the table with some new information is always a good thing!
1. Last and most important: Be kind. I know people can be upsetting but by talking about food, body image, and exercise we can easily be perceived as attacking core values and beliefs. They’re all tricky subjects that could always be handled better but hindsight is 20/20 so do your best!
All of these are actions on your part. Things you can control and handle. Sure, the other person might get mad, might even develop that “come at me Bro” mentality but hey, that’s just when you #3!
What do you guys have to say to the naysayers and haters? Any advice?